I always believe that understanding the behavior of narcissists is essential to preserving our well-being and mental health, and I hope you also agree with this.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt someone was threatened by your strength, confidence, and personal power? It’s a common experience—and it’s particularly true in relationships with narcissists.
When a narcissist sees you as being too strong, they will do everything in their power to undermine you and make you feel powerless.
If you’re dealing with a covert narcissist, they will initially be drawn to your strength, confidence, and courage. They will want to be around you and bask in your energy. However, the moment they feel threatened by your strength, they will turn the tables and make you the bad guy. They will try to paint you as someone who lacks personal integrity, morality, and character. They will go out of their way to create a public spectacle out of your private failings, and they will use every weapon at their disposal to belittle and ridicule you.
On the other hand, an overt (or “inflated”) narcissist will be initially attracted to your strength and personal authority for similar reasons. They will see you as a challenge to their own power and authority. However, once they perceive you as a threat to their authority, they will launch an all-out attack on your character, reputation, and credibility. They will diminish your accomplishments, belittle your efforts, and ridicule your aspirations.
Your strength and personal power won’t become an issue until it becomes evident that you aren’t so easily influenced, manipulated, dominated, tricked, deceived, or controlled—which, of course, will annoy them to no end and give them cause to believe their retaliatory actions are justified.
It’s often not understood that narcissists aren’t the type to pursue low lives. If a self-destructive narcissist is bothering you, it’s probably because you’re a positive force who others can learn from. You have an exceptional capacity for empathy, and you love deeply and kindly. You act nicely and well. Moreover, you have a lot going for you in many ways. You represent the antithesis of the narcissist.
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